5/8/12

Talk To Your Kids About The Both Sides Of Bullying .. Please !

Think back for just a moment when you were back in school. What do you remember ?
Hopefully you remember only good times that it brought to you. Going to classes, making new friends, going to school events, food fights in the lunch room, the Friday night football games, and finally the day that you graduated from high school ..
So does this sound like what you remember from your school days ?
I hope so .. But in reality, even back in the "Good Old Days" when I was in school there where Bullies .. You know the boy or girl that had a way of making you feel uncomfortable in class, following you in the halls, and calling you names. They even made you not want to go to school the next day. I only know now after taking hours of Psychology classes in college, studying the Bible, and having kids of my own, that these boys and girls that bullied their chosen prey around school were more scared (of life) than the other kids were. Problems at home, being insecure with themselves, or maybe an alcoholic parent made these troubled kids become aggressive in school and grab the attention that they much needed through bullying.
The other side of the story of course is the poor kids that were (Are) singled out to be the bully's prey ..
How did (And Do) the bully's choose who they do to make life and school a miserable experience ?
Surprisingly most bully's choose kids much like themselves, quiet, unassuming, trying to fit in with the other kids without knowing how, and wondering what good most of their classes are going to be for them later in life. But these bullied kids are actually in school to get their education. Sad but true ..

Bully's think that this behavior makes them fit in, but it doesn't !
While the bullied kids wonder why they get picked on, and why they can't fit in by doing the right thing ..
Kind of a "Catch 22" situation ..Huh ?
Talk to your kids .. Often .. Talk to them about bullying (Both Sides) .. Not only talk to them,, Listen !



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